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Successful Strategies Subscribe to feed 2011/12/07 in Successful Strategies by admin | Permalink Many people want to become successful and financially free, but not very many of them are willing to pay the price of their success and freedom. I have talked to a lot of millionaires and listened to their wisdom. Most millionaires have clear written goals in their life. They understand that when there is no target or goal, it will be very hard to aim at a target or a goal that doesnt exist. They are where they are today because they were willing to pay the price of their freedom. They also understand the power of charity. A generous and giving heart brings prosperity and wealthy If a person watches TV and plays video games 24 hours/day, 7 days/week, you and I can easily predict where they person is going to be in 5 years. If a person keeps eating fatty food, junk food, sweets and never exercise. You can be sure that person will become overweight in time if he/she keeps doing the same thing over and over for years. If that person wants to be successful and financially free, he/she may have to change his/her daily habits, because what you do daily will determine your future. If you love to waste your time and love to make excuses, its time to make the move, start investing in your mind, body and soul! You must discipline yourself in order to create positive habits, because your daily habits will determine your future. How do I invest in our mind? First of all, fill your mind with useful information. Whats coming in, it will come out. If you want to be financially free, there are a lot of books, tapes, and videos that will teach you how to do it. If you want to be good in Real Estate, there are a lot of good resources and study materials on how to do it. Stop making excuses that you cant do this and you cant do that. A baby has to learn how to crawl, before he/she can learn how to walk. I have never seen a baby that stands up and runs the first day he/she was born. They have to go through a process of growing. Take a baby step of learning and move forward toward your goals and dreams. As long as you know that you are moving forward, keep on going, you will fail and make mistakes, but try to learn from them and move on. People who never make a mistake, they never try to do anything. When you do something new, expect to fail! When you fail, it doesnt make you a failure, you learn why you fail and learn from the lesson from the failure. Get back up when you fall down. Can you imagine if all the babies in the world tell their parents that they refuse to get back up after they fall down? None of us will be walking today if we refused to get back up after we fell down when we were babies. I know that it is not an easy to stand up after youve been knocked down, it is painful, but you must stand up again! People drown because they stay in the water too long! You must get out of the water and breathe the fresh air! Find a mentor! A mentor is a short-cut toward learning; he/she may have learned things that you never learn before. You can learn from your mentors mistakes and experience, so you dont have to go through what he/she went through. Be willing to humble yourself to sit at the feet of a mentor. Start investing in your mind and buy books, CDs and videos that will improve they way you think! Napoleon Hills said that everything starts in the mind! Your mind is greatest assets in the world; its more powerful than the fastest computer in the world! Youre responsible to program it; you can program it toward failure or success! Copyright Pebden.com 2005, Author: Entjik Jeffrie All Rights Reserved. 2011/12/06 in Successful Strategies by admin | Permalink Succinctly said, success is harmony. When the result is congruent with the ideal, success has been achieved. When the thought germinates and ripens to produce the consequence desired, victory is accorded. Success is not happenstancial or accidental. It is intentional, providential congruency. Success comes from the direct application of certain knowledge. Success is the result of an intentional act of creation. In order to consciously create, one must first learn AND then apply the principles of creation. Those principles can be called the true knowledge of how things come into being in the universe. The seven principles of true knowledge are: 1) Consciousness: All things originate as a thought form, an imaginaton. (An imaginaton is a thought form, a single distinct unit of consciousness, just as a photon is a single distinct unit of light or an electron is a single distinct unit of negative electro-magnetic vibration.) Thought is creative. Your thoughts create your reality. What are you thinking? Who or what is in control of what you are thinking? Are you? How many of the 60,000 thoughts a day that pass through your mind are purposely chosen? How many are just noise? Or worse, how many of them are distractions from and destructive to the creation of your ideal? Learning to control your thoughts is the first step in becoming a conscious creator. What is your prevalent emotional state? How do you feel about your self? What do you feel about how your ideals and thoughts? Your emotional states and prevalent attitudes are just as critical to success as are your thoughts. In fact, your emotions are the power behind your thoughts. They act as a type of gravity to draw to you the elements necessary to effectuate your ideals and specific thought patterns. Success lies in owning and controlling your mental and emotional states of being (or aspects of self). 2) Coherence: Everything is in balance; as within, so without; as above, so below. The world you see around you is a reflection of the world already existent within you. The conditions and circumstances of your life are the result of certain causal forces. The external world is the effect; the internal world of thought and emotion is the cause. The physical arises from the metaphysical. The temporal arises from the eternal. Strive to bring coherency to all aspects of self. Success is a question of balance, of perceiving the relationship between effectual and causal and then acting in accord with that knowledge. 3) Frequency: Everything is vibration. The true nature of all things is not in the appearance of things, but, rather, it lies in the frequency, periodicity and amplitude of their vibratory nature. Every existent thing is because of the coherence of its vibratory elements. Your every thought and every emotion is your personal vibratory output. These vibrations intersect and interact with other preexisting vibrations in your world. These interactions create interference patterns that produce either harmony or discord. When they produce harmony, you have success. When they produce discord, you have failure. Success comes from understanding the flow of things. 4) Comprehensiveness: Everything is duality within unity. Nothing stands alone or is separate or merely coincidental. That is simply the appearance of things to those who do not perceive the greater reality. Everything is part of one whole. Everything is relative and all things are meaningful. There is a lesson of value in every thing and every event. Success comes from seeing, learning and applying the lessons inherent in events and conditions. 5) Harmonics: Everything flows in waveforms. There is a flow to congruity in all things. Going with the flow is more efficient. Harmony creates harmony. Discordant thoughts bring discordant results. Scattered emotions bring scattered reactions. Become proactive. Be intentionally harmonious. Allow choice rather than chance to govern your thoughts and emotions. Success comes from the intentional congruity or harmony you bring to bear on the various aspects of your self. Learn how to catch the wave and ride it. 6) Cause and Effect: Everything happens in accord with natural law. There is a reason for all things. The universe works a certain way. It is not accidental. It is providential. Creation unfolds according to certain natural laws. All science and all philosophy is an attempt to describe and find meaning behind these natural laws. Learn how the universe works and then work the same way. You can best be creative by being in accord with these natural laws. Success is learning to see the consequences of your thoughts, feelings and actions. You are not apart from natural law. These same laws that govern the formation of atomic structures and entire galaxies also govern you and your vibratory output of thought, emotion and action. 7) Polarity: Everything has masculine and feminine aspects, positive and negative polarities. There are two sides to every story inner and outer, positive and negative, front and back, up and down, masculine and feminine, waves and troughs, dark and light. Without this duality, there would be no distinctness. Without distinctness, your result would be immaterial. Without distinctness, you would be immaterial. If you desire material results that are in accord with your ideals, then you must learn to balance polarities. All material things exist because of the balance between polarities. An atom exists because of the balance between positive (proton) and negative (electron). That is natural law. The world is your mirror. What you see in that mirror is always your self. Success arises from being able to see both sides of the mirror. That is to say, by being able to see the underlying unity of your apparent duality (or the separation of your self from your world and your results). Leslie Fieger. All rights reserved worldwide. Leslie is the author of The DELFIN Knowledge System Trilogy: The Initiation, The Journey and The Quest plus many more success publications. He also the co-author of The End of the World with Hugh Jeffries and Alexandras DragonFire with his daughter Ashley. Subscribe to his free and ad-free eZine at http://www.ProsperityParadigm.com or http://www.LeslieFieger.com. Reprinting and republishing of this article is granted only with the above credit included. Permission to reprint or republish does not waive any copyright. 2011/12/06 in Successful Strategies by admin | Permalink Recently, I have been riveted by the amazing reality show The Contender. The show started with 16 boxers who have fought each other every week until last week only 4 boxers were left. These were Alfonso Gomez, Jesse Brinkley, Sergio Mora and Peter Manfredo Jr. The story of the first semi-final fight between Gomez and Manfredo contains several powerful success lessons for everyone. Alfonso had defeated Peter in the first fight of the competition but Peter had been voted back when another boxer had to leave because of injuries. Peter Manfredo Jr. was desperate to avenge his loss against Alfonso. He described his feelings as follows: That loss (against Alfonso) keeps bothering me. That was one of the worst nights of my life. Until I get that rematch and beat him thatll keep bothering me. The four boxers were told: One more victory and youre fighting for The Contender Belt and one million dollars at Caesars Palace. Your destiny is in your hands. In the meantime the rematch was on: Alfonso Gomez v. Peter Manfredo Jr.i.e. World War Two. Peter was relieved to get his second shot at Alfonso: I just cant wait until tomorrow night! He asked his little daughter if he would win. Yes she replied simply. Young kids believe their parents can do anything even if they have failed before. The series is not just about boxing. It is about the moving relationships which the boxers have with their own families and with each other. It shows how people of different backgrounds and national origins are basically the same underneath. They love their families and are motivated by them to do well. The boxers also have growing respect for each other. In fact every fight in this series has been an all out war. They are all true warriors. Alfonso commented: The group are not resenting each other but are growing close together and will keep in touch when all this is over. Peter wanted his revenge but had no hostility to his opponent: Alfonso is a great warrior. I took him lightly when I fought him. You can only respect him. Alfonsos mum told him: Dont get into heavy exchanges, please! Your opponent hits hard and you must protect yourself at all times. Alfonso replied that he did not go looking for heavy exchanges. They just came to him. His mum was not convinced! Peter explained how he felt when training: Theres times you feel great and theres times you feel scared. It took that loss for me to wake up and become a man. On the wall of the training area at the Contender Gymnasium is a saying which is worth remembering: If you want to box, train; If you want to win, train harder. Alfonso reflected on his achievements at the Gym: Im the underdog here. No body expected me to be in the final four. Im the lightest. I have the worst record. Here. So when I make it to the final, Im going to be happy because I did the impossible. He also looked ahead to the imminent fight. Visualisation techniques had worked for him in previous fights. He tried to see and feel himself winning: You see yourself fighting and at the end I visualise myself winning. If you can see it, it can happen. I see it; I feel it. This is my night I can feel it. Peters dad felt that his son had got his confidence back and was ready to win. The trainer, Tommy, told Peter to prepare for war and death or glory: You got to box, but you got to fight. This is your shot and if youve got to go out, you go on your face. This is it. Next a million dollars. Both boxers were confident but realised that the other might win. Peter commented: If he can beat me then he belongs in the final but if he doesnt Ill be there. Alfonso knew he had to produce the goods on the night of the fight or not at all: This is it; there is no tomorrow. Tonights the night! I feel like Im holding the million dollars with me right here. Alfonso hugged an imaginary million dollars to his chest. Alfonso was great at visualisation. He continued: And no one is going to take it away from me. Seven rounds. Im going to give it all. Its going to be World War II out there. If Peter beats me, he deserves a million dollars. When I came here I had no confidence but after beating Peter he raised my confidence level. When I beat Ahmed it went through the roof. So here I am fighting a rematch. Peter again explained his motivation: Whats driving me tonight is definitely not the money. Its the loss. Thats what is going to drive me to victory tonight. My hands going to be raised at the end. Alfonso was hit with a great uppercut in Round 1 and lost the first round. His corner man told him: Your output needs to come up a little bit. His mum told him to keep his hands up. So did his dad: Put your hands up, son. In Round 2, Alfonso got in a good body shot forcing Peter down on one knee. This round went to Alfonso but his dad told him not to get overconfident. His dad was right. Round 3 went to Peter who showed some good boxing skills. Before Round 4, Alfonsos corner man was getting worried: We need to dog fight this guy. Peters wife told him: You got him! She was wrong. Alfonso won Round 4. Alfonsos mum was getting aggressive: Hit him up and down, she urged. Alfonso took her advice and won Round 5. Peters dad was suffering whenever his son was hit hard but kept urging him on and fighting the fight with him. He was throwing some powerful punches in the air outside the ring. Peter won Round 6 with a great uppercut. Victory was in sight. Alfonsos corner man told him: You need to work, son. Its the last round of your life, son. Its either here now or never. You need to go out there and fight like you never fought before. Peters dad told him to suck it up. In Round 7 Peter caught Alfonso with a great cross but the fight was very even as they battled it out toe to toe like true warriors. Alfonsos Mum, realising the danger, told him to move. Hell of a fight! Hell of a fight! said the referee. Peter won by unanimous decision. I fought the fight of my life. I am extremely happy. Vegas baby. Time to go to Caesars palace my dream!My wife was so happy and my father was so happy. You know I was the first one out of here. I felt like I washed my loss away and thats the best feeling in the world. Alfonso had a chin of iron and has the heart of a champion. He belongs here. He made me fight the best fight of my life twice. I appreciate him for it. Alfonso was desolate but put a brave face on his loss: He had his hands full against me tonight. He didnt walk all over me. I never gave up and I stood toe to toe. I didnt lose against a nobody. He is a great fighter. I banged it out with big guys and I came to the final four. This is not the end for me. It is just another step towards reaching my goals of becoming world champion. I came short tonight and Peter gave it all and deserves it. He has a great heart Maybe he lost against me in the first fight but on the day that counted he won. His punches connected better. Maybe sometime in the future we will meet again. Viva Mexico! Alfonsos mother told him: You made it this far; very far. The whole world knows you are a great boxer. His father too offered words of cheer: You have nothing to be ashamed of. There are better things to come. Dont worry. Sugar Ray commented: Peter couldnt wait to avenge that loss. I lost to Duran and it hurt me bad. Stallone replied: Duran made you a better fighter. That which does not kill you, makes you stronger. Peter Manfredo became a better fighter because of Alfonso. There are many success lessons from this episode of The Contender. The advice on the gym wall is one great lesson for a start. If you want to win, train harder! Peter showed how you could use a humiliating defeat to motivate you to a victory. Sugar Ray had done the same thing when he had been beaten by Duran. That which does not kill you makes you stronger. Great competition improves your skills and your character. Both Alfonso and Peter believed they would win. This belief made them both try amazingly hard and made them create a memorable fight. Victory could have gone either way but Peter was a little sharper on the night. The power of family support both in defeat and victory was clearly demonstrated. Alfonso showed clearly how to take defeat and still be ready to move ahead with your life goals. About the author John Watson is an award winning teacher and fifth degree black belt martial arts instructor. He has recently written two books about achieving your goals and dreams. They can both be found on his website http://www.motivationtoday.com along with a weekly motivational message and several other motivational books. The title of the first book is 36 Laws To Ignite Your Inner Power And Realize Your Dreams Now! Acronyms, Stories, Pictures And QuotesEasy To Remember And Use Everyday To Grab Your Life And Soar With The Eagles The book can be found at this URL: http://www.motivationtoday.com/36_laws.php The book uses acronyms, stories, pictures and quotations to help readers remember 36 laws that can gradually transform your life if you apply them. Ezine editors / Site owners Feel free to reprint this article in its entirety in your ezine or on your site but please include the resource box above. 2011/12/05 in Successful Strategies by admin | Permalink I believe that sometimes when we approach the decision to eliminate a bad habit, we make it harder than it actually is. Heres a great intervention that I share with my clients. It has a very high success rate. Upwards of 77%. Why such a high success rate? Well, because this strategy utilizes your cognitive power to recall pain, as you simultaneously make an autonomous choice to be happy and healthy. Its called, Drop it like its hot and it can give you new eyes to see the reason and rationale for dropping any bad habit, fast! Like most great interventions, it is very simple. However, this one has a foundation of fun. It is one of the most effective ways to quickly and permanently transcend feelings of conflict, sense of loss, and deprivation typically associated with dropping a bad habit. And, its not radically new. Ironically, drop it like its hot, is a little like stopping cold turkey. Unlike the latter, this strategy offers a powerful metaphor as an incentive and rationale. It does this by re-creating a catalytic event that encourages dramatic and permanent change. Heres how it works. Whenever you catch yourself engaging, thinking of, or doing an undesirable behavior or bad habit, immediately drop it like its Imagine the heat of hot, fiery coals. Pick up the habit; you pick up hot coals. And, we all know the consequences of that. As you can see, this illustration sheds new light on the negative consequences of the behavior. And, youre less likely to have conflict between what you say you are going to do, and what you actually do. This is because there is a powerful association of motivation and excruciating pain. So, you automatically create an intuitive, autonomous, system for ridding yourself of your bad habit. When you can vividly see the horrific consequences in your mind and experience the event with your entire central nervous system, you are more inclined (and more motivated) to separate yourself from the bad habit. This exciting intervention serves as the ultimate, in behavior-modifying metaphors. It reminds us of our ability to exercise our power and control and drop any bad habit like its really, really hot. Fran Briggs is a Certified Mental Health Resource Specialist. She is also the founder of The Fran Briggs Companies, an organization which helps individuals and groups take their human potential beyond the max. For more information, or to sign up for your free, semimonthly success newsletter, visit http://www.franbriggs.com 2011/12/05 in Successful Strategies by admin | Permalink Affirmations are emotionally driven statements of intention and faith that guide thought and action. Affirmation comes from the Latin firmus, meaning strong. Affirmations recognize and assert the existence of personal truths. These statements can be powerfully effective for developing and strengthening thought patterns, and thus actions, needed to achieve goals. These thought patterns also attract the situations we affirm to be true. Use Affirmations Effectively Affirmations are effective when combined with strong emotions and vivid sensory imagery: sight, sound, smell, taste, and touch. Effective affirmations state, in present tense, what we want. At the same time, we are feeling the joy, satisfaction, and gratitude we would feel if each statement had already manifested. Recall Vivid Imagery and Strong Emotion An effective way to create mind imagery and emotion is to recall a situation in your life when you actually felt the emotion you want to create. Recall situations that made you feel joyful, loving, forgiving, excited, happy, accepting, successful, and grateful. This is the same way emotions surface when we dwell on memories that bring tears, upset, or nostalgic feelings. When using affirmations, you get to select purposely the emotions you want. Let these emotions surface and permeate your mind and body. Practice Positive Affirmations Belief, imagery, and emotion are essential elements in effective affirmations. With practice, you will be able to create vivid images and emotions very quickly. It might also be helpful to begin by affirming the action you are now taking, as in the exercise below. Here are seventeen sample affirmations for strengthening goal achievement, creativity, confidence and abundance. Practice the affirmations while combining them with compelling imagery and strong emotion. I reflect on successful experiences, and I let the memories and moments linger. I enjoy expressing myself freely, confidently, and creatively. I am grateful for the success and satisfaction that my purpose is bringing to me. I provide value to those I serve, and I am becoming more abundant each day. I welcome challenges and changes in my life, and I feel grateful that each change brings new blessings. I see my goal clearly, and allow myself to receive it with gratitude. I forgive myself and others, release the past, and move forward with love and confidence. I am resilient, capable, confident, lovable, and loving. I allow joy to flow through me, and I rejoice in my self-expression and creativity. I feel the joy in small accomplishments each day, and I allow myself to be thankful, loving, and peaceful. I deserve success, am enthusiastic about life, and create my life the way I want it to be. I allow energy, vitality, adventure, and passion for my purpose to fill my life. I allow abundance into my life through my actions, gestures, and words, and I receive all that I need. I accept Divine guidance, and I feel safe, secure, hopeful, and protected by Divine Love. I celebrate lifes peaks and valleys, knowing that every situation provides a lesson I must learn. I allow every experience to make me stronger, wiser, more capable, more abundant, and more loving. I savor small victories along the path to my goals, and I reflect deeply on each experience. Affirm Only Your Intentions Each day, our minds fill unconsciously with self-talk, echoing thought patterns and beliefs formed during early development. These might be positive and supportive thoughts. However, our internal speech can also attract the very situations and feelings we would rather avoid. Negative, distracting thoughts are actually affirmations working against us. By becoming aware of these negative affirmations, we can replace them immediately with positive affirmations that focus on what we want. Create Your Personal Affirmations After practicing with the affirmations above, create your own affirmations based on what you want to achieve. It will not help to simply repeat a list of someone elses affirmations that you dont actually believe. You must own each affirmation as a personal declaration of your intention and faith. Act on Your Affirmations Spend time each day with your personal affirmations. Then take actions that will lead to their realization. When charged with belief, vivid imagery, and strong emotion, affirmations can be effective and supportive tools that help you move toward the achievements that you desire. Copyright 2005 by Steve Brunkhorst. Steve is a professional life success coach, motivational author, and the editor of Achieve! 60-Second Nuggets of Inspiration, a popular mini-zine bringing great stories, motivational nuggets, and inspiring thoughts to help you achieve more in your career and personal life. Get the next issue by visiting http://www.AchieveEzine.com 2011/12/05 in Successful Strategies by admin | Permalink Everything we do in life involves risk. Theres no growth of any kind without risk. We start running risks when we get out of bed in the morning. We take a risk every time we cross the street. Risks are good for us. They bring out the best in us. And, you cannot achieve happiness or success without taking risks. Everything that you care about in your life depends upon risking. And the truth is that most people dont even think about risking, and theyre risking all the time. Almost everything that you do that can result in moving yourself closer toward where you want to be in life involves risk. To put in another way, almost everything you do thats going to get you closer to the things you want involves to possibility of a loss. And if you youre not aware of what you could loose, then youre not aware of how you can protect yourself from losing it. All risks follow a similar pattern: First you find out that youre in a risky situation; then you have to decide what you have to do to get out of it; then you assess the risk and the danger involved in the risk; then you go for it, putting the hammer to the floor, until you reach the point of no return and you have to save yourself. And then you finally adjust to the new position. When people say theyre afraid of success, theyre not really saying theyre afraid of success. What theyre afraid of is not holding on to the place they are in, their comfort zone. Most people get into trouble by failing to adjust to a position that is outside of their comfort zone. Achieving success requires hard work and it requires you to work even harder to maintain it. When youve achieved success, everyone is watching you, waiting to see where you make your mistakes, ready to move up and take advantage them. The people who are afraid of success are afraid that they arent good enough to reach success in the first place, and thats why they dont take risks. Before you take any risk, you have to analyze the possible loss contained in the risk. If this sounds scary to you, its probably the thing that stops you from taking the risks that you need to take to go where you want to go. Taking a risk is like jumping over a chasm. Instead of measuring the width of the chasm, most people will walk up to the edge, look down and are overwhelmed by the depth. You do not jump the depth. You jump the width. If youre so afraid of what you could lose if something goes wrong, you paralyze yourself so that you lose your sense of forward motion at the time when you need to take the risk. You need to practice on flat ground. Figure out how wide that chasm is, and take a couple of leaps. Its hard to do this in real life. But in real life, what you do is start planning. You make a worst-case scenario and a best case scenario. But you have to be careful, because at the moment of truth, when you face the actual risk, youre caught up with the truth, not with your estimation of your worth or power. When you take a risk dont make the mistake of exaggerating your worth. Never overestimate your strength or your ability to respond. You have to come from strength, but you must come from the full body of your strength and not plan on using excess resources that you hope to have. When you take a risk, you can count only on what you have at that particular moment. What this means is that sometimes the risks you have to take are not always the risks you want to take. Sometimes you have to take a risk to get into the position where you can take the risk that you want to take. Risking is important to all parts of life, not only financial but also emotional. When you think of the relationships that you care about most, the thing that you risk is rejection for expressing how you really feel. But if the relationship youre in is one in which you cannot express how you feel, then is it a good relationship for you or the other person? The best relationship is one in which you can simply be yourself, in which youre welcomed in as the person you are. In a relationship, if you have to give up a part of yourself in order to be there, you have already given up and lost the part of the relationship that youre risking for. To keep your relationships alive, you must take risks all the time. You must be willing to say things like, I dont like that, or this isnt what I had in mind, or this is what I want to do, or this makes me uncomfortable. You need to be able to take the risks and state who you are in terms of what you feel. The ability of your relationships to have value depends on the truth of your feelings that you are comfortable in expressing in the relationship. A relationship in which you have to lie about your feelings is not a relationship worth risking for. If youre looking for approval from the people around you, then youre limited by other peoples approval. The person who will praise you for something may lead you off the correct path. The correct path is one where youre pleasing yourself, where youre the person who is the judge of the worth, merit, and the good feelings that something gives you. You have to ultimately take the risk to live a life where youre the judge of how good the things are that youre risking for. When you risk to please someone, you risk loosing your self-esteem and your path. In the business world, risking is what life is all about. You have to analyze the problems that face you. You have to take risks often with limited resources. Youre worried about the people who are slow in paying you. Youre trying to expand the business and your career. You wonder if you should take out ads and how you should position your business in the marketplace. And everyone is trying to sell you something. The need to take a risk, the need to move ahead, and the need to succeed, especially in business can undermine you, if the need is greater than your ability to say no to a certain risks. You have to have a plan and know exactly what you want. And if you dont, then sometimes the best risk is the risk not taken. Heres the basic rule you must remember and follow, whether youre in business or dealing with people, or raising a family: The right risk brings you closer to the right life. The right life, is the life where you feel more like yourself. Where you are doing what you want to do, not what people tell you to do. Where you recognize that you were given a gift when you came to this planet, and that your job is to discover what that gift is and develop it. And once youve discovered your gift find as many ways as you can to give it back. Any risk you take must in some way, enhance your ability to discover your gift, to develop it, and to raise your chances of giving it back. When you look back over your life, youll see that everything good that has ever happened to you depended on your doing something that came from yourself. Not pleasing others, but pleasing yourself. Some gift that you gave back. So giving your gift and risking are important in understanding who you, and achieving happiness and success in life. You have to take all the risks necessary to develop your gift so that you can be happy, because being happy is the payoff for discovering your gift. There is no happiness in just making more money. You may not agree with that when your bills are piling up around you and financial pressures are mounting. But money is not the answer. Once the novelty of money is gone, you feel a kind of emptiness and despair, because you have to live within you. Taking risk requires that you believe that you have something thats special about you. Dont confuse this specialty with arrogance and conceit. Feeling special is about having a sense that you were put on this earth for a purpose. All of your risks should reflect that purpose in some way. They should get you closer to the place where youre more yourself. They should make it easier for you to be free in expressing your feelings. Being emotionally free in expressing who you are, and doing the things you love, is the final payoff for taking all the right risks. Copyright 2005 by Joe Love and JLM & Associates, Inc. All rights reserved worldwide. Joe Love draws on his 25 years of experience helping both individuals and companies build their businesses, increase profits, and achieve total success. He is the founder and CEO of JLM & Associates, a consulting and training organization, specializing in personal and business development. Through his seminars and lectures, Joe Love addresses thousands of men and women each year, including the executives and staffs of many of Americas largest corporations, on the subjects of leadership, self-esteem, goals, achievement, and success psychology. Reach Joe at: [email protected] Read more articles and newsletters at: http://www.jlmandassociates.com 2011/12/05 in Successful Strategies by admin | Permalink If you are reading this article, however you found it; I know something about you. You have an interest in your own improvement, or the improvement of those you lead. You have a desire, perhaps even a burning one, to assimilate new information in hopes that the new information will improve your results. If you are reading this you are a learner, and you want to get better. How do I know that? Its easy. Most people dont take the time to find material like this. Most people show, through their actions that they are complacent happy with their skills and results. Sadly, most people dont read. So congratulations! You meet a criterion important for unleashing your potential, because you search for ideas, approaches, techniques, tips and tools. Now that I have congratulated you, let me tell you a secret. It isnt enough. There is a big difference between knowing of a tool, owning it and using it. Owning a hammer doesnt get the nail through the board. Knowing how to drive the nail straight doesnt get that new picture hung. There is a big difference between seeing how an idea will work, being inspired to make it work, and doing it. The difference, of course, is action. If we want to make progress, if we want to get better, if we want to unleash our enormous potential, we must take action. I know that there can be a lot in our way pressing business matters, an already overflowing plate of work, issues and challenges away from work. Im sure you are like me you have ideas from the last workshop you attended, five notes from the article you read last week and two ideas spawned from the book you finished last month. And they just sit there. At some point they move from being a motivating thing, to a negative one ideas sitting there, growing stale, weighing on our mind because we arent getting them done. Guess what? You cant take action on all of those ideas today or tomorrow. But most of us stop there, somewhat stymied by the list, immobilized by not knowing where to start. If you want to change that, read on. Whats Next? Dont read the rest of this unless you are ready to invest five minutes after you finish reading it. If you dont invest that time, this article and the ideas it spawns will just add to the list. Commit to yourself that you will spend five minutes taking action on the advice provided below before you do anything else. Five Things in the Next Five Minutes 1.Tell yourself you cant do everything you want. You cant. But dont let this fact stop you. Because while you cant do everything, you can do anything. You must choose. 2.Make a quick list. List the ideas, tools, techniques or approaches that you have been thinking about wanting to do something with. Maybe it is an idea you recently read, maybe it is a workshop you want to attend, or a project you want to try whatever those things are, write them down on a quick list. It doesnt have to be pretty or complete, just get your ideas down. Now. 3.Pick one. One thing on the list will stand out to you. One will be calling your name. One will be exceptionally motivating. Pick it. 4.Determine a first action. Decide what the first thing is that you need to do to put this idea, approach or tool into action. This first step isnt huge. It should be something you can do today, regardless of how busy your schedule is. If the step seems too big, break it down some more. 5.Do it. Today. (Now is even better). After you have done these five things (you have now, right?) there are two more things to do, and these two can be done in a flash far less than the five minutes you just invested. 6.Decide a next action. 7.Commit to completing the next action. These seven steps will change your life if you DO them. That is the point of this article after all. In the end, it isnt about knowledge, ideas or inspiration. It is about action. Kevin Eikenberry is a leadership expert and the Chief Potential Officer of The Kevin Eikenberry Group (http://KevinEikenberry.com), a learning consulting company. To receive a free Special Report on leadership that includes resources, ideas, and advice go to http://www.kevineikenberry.com/leadership.asp or call us at (317) 387-1424 or 888.LEARNER. 2011/12/04 in Successful Strategies by admin | Permalink Have you ever thought about what makes a superstar? What attributes we admire in our heroes? Do you ever wonder were all the extra ordinary men have gone? Watch the movies that shaped our modern era, the ones which make you think about what it takes to win and what it means to be an American; what do you see? Some of the movies made heroes out of movie stars. First Blood, Rocky, Top Gun, Karate Kid, Vision Quest, Star Wars, etc. People need that, they want to emulate those traits and that success, but realize it does not happen without sacrifice. What happened to Americas driven attitude? We seem to see glimpses of it recently during tragedies; we see heroes, but why stop there? We can form a sense of service, commitment and quality in every American and get back to what made us great in the first place; if we will commit our selves to go beyond and persevere. To do what ever it takes and never give up. We still have it in us as Americans, much is the strength and will in our genes passed down; yes we are great, and anyone who says we are not, is wrong, dead wrong. Why is it so un-politically correct to say it, after all it is the truth, we really are great. We are a great people and we live in a great nation. Let us celebrate the noblest amongst us, that spirit that lives inside of each of us. That is what it is to be American. Let us give back the individualism that brought us here through individual accomplishments and hardships. Realize some gave the ultimate sacrifice. Surely we have not run out of heroes, they are everywhere. It seems lately any one who starts to stand out, is quickly labeled and cut down. Almost as if the media, builds them up, just so they can burn them down later in the future for a good piece on the nightly news. America use to love her winners, now we seem to in our laziness, over weight, Prozac lifestyles, enjoy more the tearing down of the weak in order to make ourselves feel better. Why do we do that? Be strong, go beyond, show your strength, refuse to give up, press on and never give up. Be a silent hero amongst the masses. Join us in strength, wake yourself up and be alive. Do you have the right stuff? Dont tear down the strongest among us; join us. Be a winner. Anyway think on this. Lance Winslow Online Think Tank forum board. If you have innovative thoughts and unique perspectives, come think with Lance; www.WorldThinkTank.net/wttbbs/ 2011/12/04 in Successful Strategies by admin | Permalink Does your life feel less than fulfilling? Are you waiting for good things to come to you? Do you lack motivation to make real changes in the quality of your life? Are you waiting for someone else to tell you what to do? Are you the type of person who sits back and lets others make decisions about your life? Do you hang onto a need to have others look after you? Well if you identify with any of these questions then I can almost definitively say that you are entertaining the fear of taking full responsibiliy for your life. In so doing I think you will immediately agree when I say that you are likely feeling empty, anxious, unfulfilled, depressed, frustrated or angry. The state I just described is the result of hanging on the the fear of taking repsonsility for your life. So I would like to ask you a simple question. That is: What is the benefit to you of hanging onto this fear? Now I know that given your state of existence you will likely say that there is no benefit. I would like to show you howvever that unconsciously you are buying into some false beliefs about the supposed benefits of hanging onto the fear. Here we go: 1. The benefit of hanging onto the fear of taking responsibility for ones life is so that, 2. One doesnt have to be acountable when something goes wrong, so that, 3. In not being accountable one can avoid feeling inadequate, incompetent or incapapable, so that, 4. One can feel better about themselves. So in summary: (A) The fear of taking responsibilty for ones life makes one feel better about ones self. (A) resonate as a true statement for you? If youre not sure notice how it feels to be stuck in the fear of being unable to take responsibility for your life. I think you will readily notice that it makes you feel stuck, inadequate, fearful, incompetent, stupid, useless, trapped, dependent, weak, lowers your self worth, your self estem and your self confidence. In summary it makes you feel like less than a normal human being. So, if we return to statement (A) again. does it resonate as true for you? If you recognize that it does not then you are on you way to freeing yourself of this fear and taking greater command of your life. If youd like to move further on this journey then kindly visit the web link below to book an introductory consultation. Dr. Nick Arrizza is trained in Chemical Engineering, Business Management & Leadership, Medicine and Psychiatry. He is an Energy Psychiatrist, Healer, Key Note Speaker,Editor of a New Ezine Called Spirituality And Science (which is requesting high quality article submissions) Author of Esteem for the Self: A Manual for Personal Transformation (available in ebook format on his web site), Stress Management Coach, Peak Performance Coach & Energy Medicine Researcher, Specializes in Life and Executive Performance Coaching, is the Developer of a powerful new tool called the Mind Resonance Process(TM) that helps build physical, emotional, mental and spiritual well being by helping to permanently release negative beliefs, emotions, perceptions and memories. He holds live workshops, international telephone coaching sessions and international teleconference workshops on Physical. Emotional, Mental and Spiritual Well Being. Business URL #1: http://www.telecoaching4u.com Personal URL: http://www.telecoaching4u.com/Spirituality_And_Science.htm 2011/12/03 in Successful Strategies by admin | Permalink If youre like most adults, once upon a time you were in a relationship, felt you were in love, and thought you had found the right mate. Then you were disappointed with a breakup, perhaps so painful it left you scarred for months and in some cases even years. Well, I hate to break it to you, but if your current love relationship is not working, chances are that breaking up may be the way to a successful relationship and a new life. This article does not invite men and women to leave their relationship. It is intended to explain one of the reasons why relationships fail. I hope you will take away knowledge you can use to ensure the success of your own love relationships. As a case study, let me relate the story of Jack and Jill. Late in 2003 while Jack, a well-to-do accountant, was out shopping, his eyes caught a woman. She was very pleasing to the eye. Jack spoke to the woman and soon the two began dating. They were so happy from the start that they thought they were soulmates. About two weeks into their dating, things had changed. They were now in a love relationship. Jack introduced his new-found love Jill to his son and Jill introduced Jack to her own family. Both Jack and Jill were single parents each with two children. Things seem to be moving along well for them. By this time, it was not uncommon for Jack to take Jill shopping, give her his credit card and watch her spend, spend and spend. Jill loved it. In her mind, she had found the perfect man. He was good-looking, academically educated, had a beautiful five-bedroom house and was financially secure. As the relationship progressed to another stage, Jack was so happy with his new woman, he suggested marriage. Jill asked that Jack give her some time to think about his offer. Jills reason for not going along with Jacks suggestion right away was she wanted to take it slow for the sake of her children. She wanted to make sure she was making the right decision for everyone involved. Despite the happiness friends and family felt for Jack and Jill as their relationship progressed, deep inside Jill felt there was something amiss. Jill began to ponder their relationship with an objective frame of mind. She analyzed it and realized Jack was not treating her very well. All along she had been blinded by the fact that she had found a man. As far as Jack was concerned, everything was perfect. He was more than happy with the way Jill treated and took care of him. About seven months into their relationship, Jill decided to end it. Jack could not understand. He became offended and accused Jill of being cold and unloving.Jill became very frustrated and called me. The obvious answer I gave to Jill was, Jacks remark is really about him and not you, Jill. He wants you and if he cannot have you, then to him it means you are cold. I continued, If the relationship is not working, as you tell me, it is your right to set him free so that you both can find your true mates. Jill vented and when she was done, she felt better. About four months after their breakup, I asked Jill what had become of Jack. Jill informed me that Jack had found another woman who was more his age. The new woman had moved into Jacks home and they planned to get married. Jill proceeded to say, You should see them in church on Sundays. Everybody says they look so good together. I can see how happy he has become. I can feel they are right for each other. When Jill said that to me, my response was: Dont you feel good that you let him go when you realized the relationship was not working? Because you set him free, now he has found a woman he is very happy with. She agreed that the breakup had led to something better for both of them. Relationship breakup is and can be painful depending on what a person has invested in the relationship. It is even more hurtful if you are expecting a future, such as marriage, but come up short. The most important thing to understand is that relationships break up for several reasons. The above story shows only one way that breakup can be the best thing for you. Anger, insults, and seeking revenge simply make matters worse, as these retaliatory feelings keep eating at your core. When your relationship ends, you must do what needs to be done to forgive yourself and the other person. I know too many cases where people become so bitter that they form a negative opinion of the opposite sex. These feelings will then manifest themselves in conversation with friends. Soon friends begin to feel emotionally drained with all the negative talk and begin to avoid the person who is doing the negative talk. There are many cases where people take their bitter experience into a new relationship and end up losing that new lover because of their negative talk. When your relationship fails, the most important thing to do is accept what has happened. Try to understand why it did not work out. Consider the consequences of what may happen to you emotionally if you resort to anger. Usually after a breakup, you may find yourself missing the other person and want to go back to them. It is very important to be strong, as you will almost certainly have feelings of wanting to return and reignite the relationship. If your relationship breaks up, it can be because your soulmate is just around the corner and in order for you and your soulmate to connect, you must become single, thus allowing your soulmate to come into your life. A breakup can also mean that you have been hurt too many times in the relationship, taken advantage off, lied to, cheated on, and so forth, and that your soul cannot take it any more and needs to get away. Forgive yourself and others. The power of forgiveness is one of the most powerful ways of achieving inner peace. Forgiveness will help you feel good about yourself. It will give you courage you thought you never had and lead you into the arms of your true mate. Ernest Quansah is a Soulmate Relationship Expert who helps men and women find their true love and create the relationship of their dreams. He is the author of How to Identify Your Soulmate, a love relationship advice manual designed to help people find happiness and fulfillment in their relationships. For more information about his services, please visit http://www.soulmateinfoserve.com Copyright 2005. All rights reserved. Older entries Subscribe to feed Powered by WordPress and Tarski